STEPMOTHER: THE WITCH IN DISGUISE OR IS IT JUST OUR
PRE-ASSUMED
ATTITUDE?
By: Lubnah Abdulhalim
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When such a
tragedy like losing or getting separated to your mother befalls anyone
especially a child or a teenager most of us give up on life, get depressed too much
and have so much negativity and bitterness towards life but what can be more
stressing to a child is having the knowledge that they are going to have a step
mother. Most of us have grown up hearing the fairy tale stories of step mothers
whereby they are depicted like the witches in disguise; those so evil monsters
in a human costume with long terrifying nails ready to kill us at any moment.
And that is the picture most children have grown up with towards step mothers
which makes them automatically have a negative attitude towards her even before
meeting or getting to know her well.
Well, no one
could ever deny that it really takes a beautiful heart to be ready to take care
of her husband’s children with good heart and humility like they are her own
children. We’ve heard so many stories in news of how children have been
mistreated by their step mothers; some got burnt, some beaten up heavily for no
good reason, some over worked, and some are used for illegalities while some
are denied golden opportunities like basic education and food especially in the
absence of the father. That was never the end of it. We’ve also heard of the
step parents sodomizing the children, raping them and worst yet, leading to
their death. It is so sad how much inhuman and ruthless step mothers can be but
what many don’t know of is that we can never miss one good person in every ten
people. Good step mothers do exist and what is even more interesting is that
they sometimes give better treatment to the children more than the real mothers.
There are women
with such golden hearts that are incomparable. They give the step children so
much love and care such that a stranger would never know that she isn’t the
real mother. And it is in circumstances like these that you find that it is actually
the step children now, who are giving a rough and hard time to the step mother.
It is true, it is never easy for anyone to imagine having another mother but we
should understand that this isn’t a competition. No one could ever replace our
mothers but maybe we should make space for other worthy people in our lives. So
long as she is treating you good then giving her a hard time is just
unnecessary.
Yet still, it
is not only the step mother who has been convicted with such devilish crimes
but step fathers too and even real parents have had cases of mistreating their
own children. Therefore, it is high time we changed our theories and beliefs
that are so stuck in our minds and give chance and space for reality to prove
itself. No one wishes that their mother dies or parents separate and no one
wishes to have a step mother or even a step father, but when circumstances
force one into our lives then let us learn to accept them in our lives. She may
not be like the real mother but she may just be like your guardian angel.
Accepting such changes is important because it makes us move on at our own pace
in life.